Poor Baruch!! I sympathise deeply but your posts really made me laugh, I could perfectly imagine the scenes you were describing... because Trilly and Frank were exactly the same!
Well, I have to say I am not sure about Frank, he hissed at me but he never lunged the way Trilly did. She was a demon, acting exactly the way you describe MM.
I left them alone completely until the babies were born. I opened the rooftop once or twice during the day but never tried to put my hands inside unless they were away, I didn't want to upset them and to be honest I didn't see any usefulness in looking constantly at the eggs.
After the babies were born I checked very often, but only put my hands in when the parents were outside the nest wolfiing down some food.
After a few days I noticed what Tielfan described: they basically let me put the hands inside the nest. BUT I always did that when they were outside the nest already.
They would come near me to see what I was doing with the babies but they were not angry or panicky, just curious to see what I was doing.
I am sure your guys will be perfectly agreeable after a while.
Scooping these poor guys with a spatula seems a bit like shooing someone with a broom... not really nice!!!