If the male is anything like most of my boys, he won't pester her at all

. If he falls in love he will follow her around and sing for her, but won't "molest" her

If you can visit the breeder and see her birds and get to know them a bit I am sure you can choose one that's well suited. Otherwise you can get a rescue bird, being adults in most cases they will show their personality and you could more easily see if they can be a good match for your girl.
Don't worry about a change in personality! Your girl will stay exactly the same as she is now, she is already bonded with you and introducing a new bird won't change that
